I know that it’s been longer than the blink of my eye- but I simply cannot believe it’s the middle of June! “Wedding season” in Florida is officially wrapped up, and preparations for the fall are in full swing.  I’m trying not to geek out over all of the details that are being hammered out right now. Sometimes being a planner has its drawbacks (i.e., having to wait another 3 months to see a vision come to life).  Patience is a virtue, right?

Honest? This year has been an uphill climb for me. Blog posts have taken a backseat, and I’m determined to change that. Even more honest? I am welcoming the ‘summer break’ with open, even eager, arms.

Total honesty?
I’ve truly never enjoyed my job more. 

I was able to work with absolutely phenomenal clients this spring- and what a privilege it was! Ask any of my assistants- each time a first dance started, my eyes welled with tears and I had to duck away.  Watching a groom draw in his bride, and the happy couple twirl ’round the dance floor- my heart bursts every time.  There’s this moment of release for me at a reception: the vows are exchanged, the new couple has been introduced, and the only item left on the agenda is to watch the nearest and dearest of the new Mr. & Mrs. celebrate. The emotion in that moment, for me, is simply unexplainable.

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^photo compliments of Sunglow Photography.

There is always so much anticipation leading up to the big day, and with every wedding there is a slew of problem solving moments.  Decisions need to be made, some being just a slight tweak, other times on a larger scale. As challenging as the process can be- I love it. It is exciting to me- evaluating a situation and finding the best solution, weighing as many possibilities as I can.

Recently, I’ve had a few conversations about the difference between a wedding planner and a venue coordinator.  Many venues offer event managers/coordinators on-site to assist the client in the planning process.  There are several relatively quick differences I could explain (I love this summary on Every Last Detail), but I think it’s most important to me to highlight my role in how decisions are made.

One of my goals is to know my client so well that I can make an educated decision on his/her behalf on the spot.  I can often be heard referring to my client’s “decision-making-mechanism.” Cheesy? Absolutely… but still effective. :)  Normally, about half-way through their engagement, that mechanism starts to wane.  Every decision has to be filtered through so many layers: family, budget, emotion, tradition, and of course- their own style/preference.  I’m aware of the intense, overwhelming struggle. By providing an outside perspective, I’m able to assist in making swift and necessary changes.

In effect, I do my best work when I am wholeheartedly invested in my clients.  I know them personally, understand their priorities, and feel confident speaking on their behalf.  The foundation of trust I establish with my clients is one that I consider a privilege and an honor. And then, on their wedding day, I am able to watch them twirl round and round- content in knowing the day has gone as seamlessly as possible.

See why I love my job?

Life, as of late.

I’ve started this post a few times over the past few weeks.  I’m not very good at sitting down and focusing when there are big thoughts on my brain.  I type a phrase, perhaps a sentence, and then- delete. It’s hard to slow down, settle in, and really hash out what is on my heart.

So many of my posts have been heavy-hearted recently, or at least personal.  This one may top them all.  I hesitate even publishing it- but I strive to be both authentic and transparent with Ashton Events, and I don’t want my fears to get in the way of that. I know not everyone will care or agree with what I am sharing- and I completely respect that. But I also know how much I have gained from walking through life alongside others- and perhaps part of my journey will reach one of you.

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We all go through seasons of life- bends in the road, unexpected turns, roadblocks even.  To be perfectly frank, the past few months have been tough.  There are lots of layers that pile into that- and I don’t think that the internet is the best place to splash them.  But if you’d like to have a cup of coffee, I’m happy to share more.  The basic rundown? Scary medical appointments, hard business decisions, steep learning curves, and also a large dose of brokenness.

I don’t spout that list for pity, but rather to put a mark on the journey I am on.  I am a large believer in the way the Lord uses mountain peaks and valleys alike to draw us closer to Him. 2012 was practically a year-long mountain peak- and I am ever so grateful for all it entailed.   I never thought I would be where I am at today- never dreamt this would be the journey He would have me on. So far, 2013 has been more of a valley for me personally.  I know He is drawing me closer to Himself, pushing me further than I would ever choose to go, and that tug-of-war can be exhaustive.

I read this quote the other day in my She Reads Truth devotion- “In other words, the mystery is the surprising and glorious unfolding of the gospel in redemptive history.” This year has been a mystery to me. There are so many things I don’t understand and so many parts of life that I would far rather control than choose to hand over their reigns. And yet- I see the potential of the gospel story in the here and now.  Time and history are reminders of the way He works. I see that there has to be a surrender. I can’t do this on my own- and that’s the admittance I need to readily give.

Because then that’s when He steps in. And his glory & grace are revealed through my shortcomings.  The more I see my own need and weakness, the more I see of Him.  The more I admit that, the more others see of Him.  I’ve been listening to “Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus” a lot these days. These verses have been balm to my soul.  My focus cannot be on the valley, the troubles or the pain. Instead, when I look to Him, I’m reminded of His promise, His love, and His grace.

O soul, are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see?
There’s light for a look at the Savior,
And life more abundant and free!

Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
Look full in His wonderful face,
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
In the light of His glory and grace.

Through death into life everlasting
He passed, and we follow Him there;
O’er us sin no more hath dominion—
For more than conqu’rors we are!

His Word shall not fail you—He promised;
Believe Him, and all will be well:
Then go to a world that is dying,
His perfect salvation to tell!

Happy Friday, everyone. There is so much to be grateful for! Enjoy your weekend and be refreshed!

I am thrilled to finally get to reveal this shoot to all of you! This “Tangled” inspired elopement shoot featured on Wedding Chicks today was shot by the wonderful Jordan Weiland.

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A little back story:
Jordan and I met for coffee after she sent me a text about doing a “Tangled” bridal portrait shoot with a parachute one of her friend’s had thrifted. Heavens knows Laura Helm can’t just take a simple concept and follow orders. Over the course of the next hour, we dreamed up an entire elopement shoot. We had a pasture, a parachute, and a whole lot of ideas. My kind of inspiration. :)

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I really wanted to push myself creatively, and Jordan was on board with every crazy idea and detail. I loved, no- I absolutely adored the end result. Be sure to check out the full post for all of the amazing detail shots! Here are some glimpses at the inspiration board I put together for the shoot:

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Are you familiar with the phrase “it takes a village?” I have always been a believer in it- but man, this shoot took my understanding to a whole new level. Would you believe that the day of the shoot we were avoiding bulls (who were protecting calves and their mamas!), dealing with wiley horses, not-so-successfully avoiding rainstorms, and stamping out small fires (those dang wish lanterns). Every single person (vendor, helper, innocent bystander) lent a hand to pull this off both safely and beautifully.

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I am so grateful for this industry- and this shoot played a large role in giving me confidence to go after my dreams and do what I absolutely love. I was just starting my branding process when this shoot took place, and I am overjoyed with where that journey has brought me. It’s so worth it. Especially for moments like this:

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Many thanks to:
Photography: Jordan Weiland | Flowers/Furniture Rental: FH Weddings | Cake: Sweetcakes Bakery | Hair Stylist: Mary Galletta | MUA: Sarah Phillips Makeup Artistry | Models: Taylor Montague + Corey Brinckerhoff | Linen: Nuage Design | Second Shooter: Leah Langley | Belt: Hattie’s Branches | Custom Decor/Print Materials/Styling: Ashton Events

I hope you all have a splendid weekend!